Wednesday, August 31, 2011

On the Bookshelf

The Bookshelf:


Chloe is reading:

*Blueberries for Sal by Robert McCloskey -- I wonder if this will be the last time we check this book out of the library.... Chloe has moved on to so many other bigger kid books, but this was a favorite for so long.  It makes me smile that she still picks it.
*The Hoppameleon by Harry Robins
*Billy and Blaze stories by C.W. Anderson -- Boys and their horse adventures.  These were some of Evan's favorites from years ago.
*Wee Gillis by Munro Leaf -- Some books should always be read by dads.  This one is best with a thick scottish accent :-)
*Watch Out! Big Bro is Coming by Jez Alborough

*The Cranky Day by Rev. Awdry -- Again with wondering..... when she will lose interest in Thomas the tank engine....
*A House for Hermit Crab by Eric Carle -- I'm not really a fan of this author, but this book is cute and since we just saw a real one at the pet store recently, it sparked some interest.
*A Color of His Own by Leo Lionni -- A totally inaccurate portrayal of a chameleon, but Chloe loves all the colors and patterns.

She is interested in:
*chameleons
*caterpillars
*tracing and painting horses
*cutting out snowflakes
*seashells
*sharks
*animal tongues :-) -- we actually found a book on this too!
*do I even need to keep writing horses on this list..... ???


Evan is reading:

*Farmer Boy by Laura Ingalls Wilder -- We have read this twice before.  This time he is totally relating to the very hungry main character....  Evan often quotes to me: "Almanzo was bored.  He began to be hungry."
*Magic School Bus on the Ocean Floor by Joanna Cole 
*The True Story of Pocahontas by Lucille Penner -- Evan was horrified that the Disney book that he also has is not accurate. Leave it to Walt Disney to inspire this kid to search for truth. 
*Star Wars (novelizations of the original three movies) for the third or fourth time with Todd who is completely awesome with the voices.

*Stellaluna by Janell Cannon
*The Wizard of Oz by Frank Baum -- We haven't started this yet, butI got it since he likes fairy tales and this sort of reminds me of one with the witches and magic and stuff.  I'm still going to pre-read it to make sure.


He is interested in:


*military vehicles -- tanks, planes, carriers...
*building Star Wars stuff with Legos
*Disney movies in book form (since we don't watch them) -- his latest ones are "Aladdin," "Pocahontas" and "Up"
*chameleons
*tracing pictures of trucks and cars
*origami animals



I am reading:


*Don't Sweat the Small Stuff... and It's All Small Stuff by Richard Carlson
*Eating Well In Season by Jessie Price
*Simply In Season by MaryBeth Lind
*A Million Miles in a Thousand Years by Donald Miller
*Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn

These are all fantastic books, some of my favorites all summer.  I cannot say enough good about "Unconditional Parenting" -- I actually had this for 6 weeks and then checked it out again for my next 6 week study.  It's that good.

Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Back To School

As the neighborhood kids (and the rest of America) are going back to school this week, our family just keeps rolling along with life as usual.  I have had a lot of time this month to just sit and think about the beauty of life learning and what is commonly referred to as unschooling. I know that the way we have chosen to raise and "educate" our children goes completely against the mainstream and that many (maybe even you ;-) see it as a horrible idea that we will end up regretting.  

I have always collected favorite quotes from books I read about education and also from online articles I come across.  I wanted to share them here, not only as a way of preserving them in one place as opposed to being scattered in my many notebooks and folders, but also as a bit of insight to any friends and family who read here.  Maybe this will be helpful to see why we choose this way of living.  It may not be the way you would do it, or the way you think is best, but we know deep down this is our path.  

This is living.


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"There is no difference between living and learning... it is impossible and misleading and harmful to think of them as being separate."
-- John Holt 
  

"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." 
-- Albert Einstein



“Creativity is a type of learning process where the teacher and pupil are located in the same individual.” 
-- Arthur Koestler


“Education, for most people, means trying to lead the child to resemble the typical adult of his society…But for me, education means making creators…You have to make inventors, innovators, not conformists.” 
-- Jean Piaget


 "It is possible to store the mind with a million facts and still be entirely uneducated."
-- Alec Bourne


"Answers are dead ends, even when they're correct.  Questions open the galaxies.  It is better to know some of the questions than all of the answers."  
-- James Thurber


"In the end, the secret to learning is so simple: forget about it.  Think only about whatever you love.  Follow it, do it, dream about it.  One day you will glance up at your collection of Japanese literature, or trip over the solar oven you built, and it will hit you: learning was there all the time, happening by itself." 
-- Grace Llewellyn


"Education is what remains after one has forgotten everything he learned in school. It is a miracle that curiosity survives formal education." 
--  Albert Einstein


"Today for Show-and-Tell, I've brought a tiny marvel of nature: a single snowflake. I think we might all learn a lesson from how this utterly unique and exquisite crystal turns into an ordinary, boring molecule of water, just like every other one, when you bring it in the classroom. And now, while the analogy sinks in, I'll... be leaving you drips and going outside." 
-- Calvin, from Calvin & Hobbes




"The anxiety children feel at constantly being tested, their fear of failure, punishment, and disgrace, severely reduces their ability both to perceive and to remember, and drives them away from the material being studied into strategies for fooling teachers into thinking they know what they really don’t know."
-- John Holt


"There is no neutral education. Education is either for domestication or for freedom."
-- Joao Coutinho


"What is the purpose of industrial education? To fill the young of the species with knowledge and awaken their intelligence? Nothing could be further from the truth. The aim is simply to reduce as many individuals as possible to the same safe level, to breed and train a standardized citizenry, to put down dissent and originality. That is its aim in the United States and that is its aim everywhere else."
-- H. L. Mencken


"It's not that I feel that school is a good idea gone wrong, but a wrong idea from the word go. It's a nutty notion that we can have a place where nothing but learning happens, cut off from the rest of life." 
-- John Holt
 

"All I am saying can be summed up in two words: Trust Children. Nothing could be more simple, or more difficult. Difficult because to trust children we must first learn to trust ourselves, and most of us were taught as children that we could not be trusted."
-- John Holt




"I’ve concluded that genius is as common as dirt. We suppress our genius only because we haven’t yet figured out how to manage a population of educated men and women. The solution, I think, is simple and glorious. Let them manage themselves."
-- John Taylor Gatto


"We all start out knowing magic. We are born with whirlwinds, forest fires, and comets inside us. We are born able to sing to birds and read the clouds and see our destiny in grains of sand. But then we get the magic educated right out of our souls." 
-- Robert R. McGammon


“I suppose it is because nearly all children go to school nowadays, and have things arranged for them, that they seem so forlornly unable to produce their own ideas.”  
-- Agatha Christie


"I wonder why so many parents still want to keep their children hidden away in schools, when they could be learning in the wonderful, bright, ever-changing, always-stimulating real world." 
-- Wendy Priesnitz
“What does education often do? It makes a straight-cut ditch out of a free, meandering brook.” 
-- Henry David Thoreau


“Any child who can spend an hour or two a day, or more if he wants, with adults that he likes, who are interested in the world and like to talk about it, will on most days learn far more from their talk than he would learn in a week of school.”
-- John Holt



“Forced association is not socialization.” 
-- Adele Carroll

“We are shut up in schools and college recitation rooms for ten or fifteen years, and come out at last with a bellyful of words and do not know a thing.”
-- Ralph Waldo Emerson
 



"It is absurd and anti-life to be a part of a system that compels you to listen to a stranger reading poetry when you want to learn to construct buildings, or to sit with a stranger discussing the construction of buildings when you want to read poetry." 
-- John Taylor Gatto


"It is among the commonplaces of education that we often first cut off the living root and then try to replace its natural functions by artificial means. Thus we suppress the child's curiosity and then when he lacks a natural interest in learning he is offered special coaching for his scholastic difficulties." 
-- Alice Duer Miller


 "It was at home I learned the little I know. Schools always appeared to me like a prison, and never could I make up my mind to stay there, not even for four hours a day, when the sunshine was inviting, the sea smooth, and when it was joy to run about the cliffs in the free air, or to paddle in the water." 
-- Claude Monet



“Children do not need to be made to learn to be better, told what to do or shown how. If they are given access to enough of the world, they will see clearly enough what things are truly important to themselves and to others, and they will make for themselves a better path into that world then anyone else could make for them” 
--John Holt


"For better or worse, we learn every day, wherever we are, whatever we're doing, whoever we're with. We learn good things, useful things, handy things - and we learn bad things, destructive things, things we might someday wish we hadn't learned. Life's like that. On the whole, though, learning serves us quite well, and we're constantly arranging and rearranging our learning so it's more useful to us."   
-- Helen Hegener 


“Schooling was influenced by the idea that self-directed learning created ‘dangerous,’ free-thinking, intelligent people who would make sure the government never became more powerful than the people.” 
--Laurie A. Couture


“What makes people smart, curious, alert, observant, competent, confident, resourceful, persistent – in the broadest and best sense, intelligent- is not having access to more and more learning places, resources, and specialists, but being able in their lives to do a wide variety of interesting things that matter, things that challenge their ingenuity, skill, and judgment, and that make an obvious difference in their lives and the lives of people around them.” 
-- John Holt


“We have a cultural notion that if children were not engineered, if we did not manipulate them, they would grow up as beasts in the field. This is the wildest fallacy in the world.” 
~ Joseph Chilton Pearce 



“School prepares for the alienating institutionalization of life by teaching the need to be taught.” 
-- Ivan Illich


“What children need is not new and better curricula but access to more and more of the real world; plenty of time and space to think over their experiences, and to use fantasy and play to make meaning out of them; and advice, road maps, guidebooks, to make it easier for them to get where they want to go (not where we think they ought to go), and to find out what they want to find out.” 
-- John Holt



“Children pursue life, and in doing so, pursue knowledge. They need adults to trust in the inevitability of this very natural process, and to offer what assistance they can.” 
-- Earl Stevens


“If we value independence, if we are disturbed by the growing conformity of knowledge, of values, of attitudes, which our present system induces, then we may wish to set up conditions of learning which make for uniqueness, for self-direction, and for self-initiated learning.” 
-- Carl Rogers


“Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.” 
-- Isaac Asimov



“My ideal educational system would be a society in which knowledge was widely free and widely and freely shared, and children were everywhere trusted, respected, safe, valued, and welcomed.” 
-- John Holt


"I want to make it clear that I don't see homeschooling as some kind of answer to the badness of schools. I think that the home is the proper base for the exploration of the world which we call learning or education. Home would be the best base no matter how good the schools were." 
-- John Holt


“Whatever an education is, it should make you a unique individual, not a conformist; it should furnish you with an original spirit with which to tackle the big challenges. It should allow you to find values which will be your road map through life; it should make you spiritually rich, a person who loves whatever you are doing, wherever you are, whomever you are with; it should teach you what is important, how to live and how to die.” 
-- John Taylor Gatto

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Monday, August 22, 2011

Savoring Summer

In trying to keep our life pace moving nice and slow, I have purposed to put the camera down and be present even more than usual.  We have been savoring summer.


:: making easy dinners ::
Popcorn one night, veggies and dip for another, then maybe just cereal or sandwiches, and once we even had ice cream.  Because we eat well all day long, I never have to feel bad about this.


:: playing outside as a family ::
Or if Todd is working, at least me and the kids.  This involves putting aside the excuses and just getting out there together playing chase at the playground or grabbing a ball to kick and catch or setting up horse arenas in the yard and running and racing till we all drop. Bryce and Chris like to surprise us and join these frolicking times too (which Evan especially savors!).


:: keeping bedtime peaceful and relaxed ::
Laying on a blanket in the grass and staring at the night sky, not worrying about if it's 7:15pm or 8:15pm as long as everyone is happy, building with legos all over the floor until we can't see anymore, reading fantastic books while everyone yawns and yawns and finally drops into bed exhausted.

:: taking the Jeep instead of my car :: 
The kids can climb in and out entirely without help now and they love the freedom of minimal seat restraints.  (Chloe in a booster with no high-back anymore and Evan with no booster at all now that he's 8!)  So far it seems impossible to fight or bother each other when the whole world is flying by your legs and arms and a warm wind surrounds you while the sun is shining overhead ... It is pure freedom that you can't help but savor every moment of.


:: doing lots of artsy stuff ::
Mostly laying on the floor coloring while sharing a rainbow pile of pencils, but also watching the kids create things with pinking-edge scissors or hole punches or glue sticks -- it's wonderfully messy.  Jars of paint and piles of paintbrushes have taken up residence on my kitchen table with piles of artwork waiting for display. 


:: baking yummy things ::
Cooking with the kids always forces me to slow me down so I can be more present with them rather than just being focused on getting something in the oven.  The goal is fun.  We have made bread, all kinds of muffins, chocolaty treats and no-bakes and pudding.


:: watching my kids grow right before my eyes ::
Maybe it's because of their birthdays or that fact that they only wear shorts with no shirts for months on end, but I am always more aware of their growth in the summertime.  I love this.  I love being aware of it happening.  It really slows things down as I savor it all.

Saturday, August 20, 2011

Outing with Gramma

Buzz'n Bees pet store was a new adventure for the kids courtesy of Gramma, who has been visiting this week.  There are all kinds of snakes, lizards, fish, birds and spiders to see up close.





They were on a hunt for a real chameleon and found this guy.


Isn't he cute?



The friendly saleslady told the kids she couldn't take it out because it gets nervous, but then later that day when they ran off to bid it farewell, she surprised them by getting it out.  Evan said it turned brown right away because it was mad.  They pet it briefly and she put it back so it could turn green again.  I wish I had known all that was going on a few aisles over so I could have gotten some pictures, but it sure made in imprint on the kids' memory :-)


There were so many favorites. 

Chloe wandered up and down the aquariums admiring the beautiful rainbow stones in each tank.
Evan was in love with the finches along the bird aisle. 
Chloe admired each tarantula and lizard as a mother would her new baby. 
Evan adored the rats, big and small -- he repeatedly said they were sooooo cute!


But a beautiful cockatoo stole the show and this is where we spent the next half hour.



Pirate Dad.



Evan watched Todd try holding it and reached right out for a turn.



Chloe surprised me with how calmly she handled holding a very heavy (for her) bird, giggling happy nervous giggles while it gripped her arm.



 It liked Evan's hair.



and Chloe's sparkly sleeves.


and Todd's ears, but I have no pictures of that.... darn.



This place was amazing and we certainly will never forget it :-)

Monday, August 15, 2011

She's Five


It's the anniversary of my baby's birth.  Five years ago I held my sweet girl for the first time. 
I cried. 
She didn't.

And here she is now, all 41.5 inches and 33 pounds of her. 

Still stubborn and loud and independent, but also still sweet and precious and strong in so many ways. 
She still makes me cry for both the good and bad, but she is my girl and I love all of her!


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She woke up before 7am eager to get on with birthday fun.... but Evan was still sleeping.  She got dressed and ate a quick bowl of toasted oats while she waited patiently.



She was quiet and contained (when he finally did get out of bed around 7:30) but we knew the amount of excitement stored up behind her slight smile and wide eyes.



Her little chameleon (who goes everywhere with her) naturally helped open presents.



We went with dinosaurs (from her birthday wish list which is a mile long). 
Three big ones.  Tall and strong and fierce and powerful.  Her favorites.



She headed right to the kitchen eager for a special breakfast with everyone.  She requested banana muffins with chocolate chips on top (to be added in the morning).

Candles lit.... we sang -- Happy Birthday Chloe!





With dinos lined up she layered chocolates on her muffin and devoured it saving the top layer for last.  I'm not sure how she did it really, but it was fun to watch.



After all our family tradition stuff, we got to spend the day with Gramma Monde and cousin Cami who came up to visit from North Carolina.  What a treat!  It would have been even nicer if the weather had cooperated, but the kids still had a blast inside nonetheless.  These cousins haven't been together since Cami's family moved last fall so it was a really special day indeed. 


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Tuesday, August 9, 2011

The Best Time

Uncle Chris came over yesterday because he wanted to play with the kids.  He brought my sister and my little nephew with him (for me to play with :-)

The backyard was all kinds of crazy and noise for hours and hours.  And I'm pretty sure Chris has more energy than my wild ones!  



Squirt gun war!






 Robot chase!



... and all kinds of antics I did not pester them with my camera for. 

Lets just say there was tree climbing and swinging and racing and pretending until everyone was ready to collapse. 

Of course, that includes Bryce too after chasing after her never-stops-moving-ever little guy all afternoon and night.  She is one busy (and lucky) mama!
How cute is he???